RULE #1:
It doesn't matter if it's not absolutely perfect. Most people will never notice the small things that can drive you crazy. In fact, having an event that goes too perfectly can be a bit off putting to some guests. It can make them feel that they can't properly reciprocate your hospitality.

RULE #2:
Successful entertaining is a combination of ingredients. The equation is made of one part savory food, another part interesting fellow guests, a smidgen of good beverages, a portion of ambiance and a strong serving of enthusiastic host/ess. The group can have a great time if these elements are put together in numerous different combinations.

RULE # 3:
You can - and should, enjoy yourself when you entertain. Remember you asked these people to your home for a reason. Whether family celebration, get together with friends or a business dinner, you deserve to enjoy the event also.

RULE #4:
There is more to entertaining that just the food. Perfect food can be bought at restaurants. Your guests do not think they are going to a three star restaurant when they come to your home for a meal.

RULE #5:
Plan ahead. Make lists and schedules for yourself of when things can and should be done. Do as much ahead as possible. Plan the meal so that you have some time to enjoy your guests and to handle last minute things that turn up. Make sure to have at least some of the food essentially complete when guests arrive.

RULE #6:
Accept your guests' offers to help. It doesn't mean you are losing control of the meal. Give them tasks according to their interests and abilities. For some guests just visiting with you while you do other things is enough. Other guests can be great sous chiefs or can work out final table decorations. But be ready to finish these tasks - or have finished them if you think your guests are not a volunteering group.

RULE #7:
Make sure the event matches your guests. People can get uncomfortable if the event is too formal for them. Laid back friends get nervous if they have to select from too many forks or spoons when they sit down.

RULE #8:
Give your guests clear directions. If the event is casual - let them know in clear terms. If they are supposed to bring their children and pets - make sure they understand that. Equally important, make sure they know if they are not supposed to bring offspring or animals. If it's a sit down dinner - guests appreciate having you tell them where you want them to sit.

RULE # 9:
Trying something different can be a lot of fun. Themes can be a real change of pace. Guests are flexible and enjoy doing something a little different from time to time.

RULE #10:
Eclectic is great in entertaining. How eclectic? As long as there is a harmony in design or flavors go ahead and mix dishes, silverware, wines and food. A meal does not have to be all of one culture, done well; mixing different cuisine can make for interesting flavor experiences.

RULE #11:
When friends are involved, mix up your guest lists a bit. While getting together with friends is great, bringing some new people into the group keeps it fresh. Of course, this rule must often be waived for ceremonial family events and business entertaining.

RULE #12:
Always keep in mind that your goal in entertaining is to see that you and your guests have a good time. The more you entertain, the easier it will be. We promise.